Tidbits from the episode

• There is no one size fits all for Polyamory BUT it is a practice and there are successful ways of going about things

• Chaneè has done 2 IG lives with Jess of Remodeled Love talking about how to build

• What defines a successful relationship? Longevity? Can you have been polyamorous for 10+ years and have not had a single relationship last more than 1 year?

• Plush Bunnie was featured on Episode 03-20: The Knotty House and she has been shaking the table in the polyamorous interwebs asking some DOPE questions:

  • Can you be solo poly and married?

  • Can you be RA and married?

• Amatonormativity – the belief that “everyone is better off in an exclusive, romantic, long-term coupled relationship. It also suggests that romantic relationships are more important than other platonic relationships like with your friends, family, and coworkers.

• Mononormativity – refers to society’s standard of monogamy, the practice of emotional and sexual commitment to one individual as the norm for engaging in romantic relationships

• Solo Polyamory – refers to people who are open to dating or engaging in multiple meaningful relationships without having a ‘primary partner’: one person to whom they’re committed above all other partners. Instead, the solo polyamorist might see themselves as their own primary partner, eschewing typical relationship goals, like merging finances or homes with a partner, and getting married and having children. 

• Relationship Anarchy – Relationship anarchy is the application of anarchist principles to intimate relationships. Its values include autonomy, anti-hierarchical practices, anti-normativity, and community interdependence. RA is explicitly anti-amatonormative and anti-mononormative and is commonly, but not always, non-monogamous.

• Always ask people to define the terms that they are using because how you use the term to describe your relationships, might not be the same way they do.

  • Eg: Some people define partner as a boyfriend/girlfriend/joyfriend, some use the term only to refer to someone they are married to, some use the term in a way that only refers to people they are in romantic relationships with AND some use the term just to describe people (platonic and otherwise) that are a part of their intimate circle.

• Pillars of Intentional Polyamory cohort:

  • Solo Skills

  • Relational Culture

  • Information Sharing

  • Community

It’s about to be 100!

Can’t wait to celebrate with you
Xoxo